What’s Your Attachment Style?

Answer the 20 questions below, then click Submit to see your Wave/Island/Anchor tally.

1. When I’m in a committed relationship, I usually:



2. When conflicts arise, I tend to:



3. In a new romantic relationship, my biggest concern is usually:



4. When my partner wants to talk about a sensitive issue, I often:



5. In a long-term relationship, I’m most comfortable when I can:



6. I tend to see emotional closeness as:



7. If my partner seems distant, I usually:



8. My preferred way of handling big arguments is to:



9. When a partner tries to get closer, I sometimes:



10. My ideal daily communication with my partner involves:



11. If I sense my partner is upset with me, I tend to:



12. In serious relationships, I often notice that I:



13. I’m happiest in a romantic partnership when:



14. If my partner demands more emotional availability, I might:



15. My biggest fear in romantic relationships is usually:



16. Big changes in a relationship (like moving in) make me feel:



17. My past partners or close friends have described me as:



18. In disagreements, I’m most likely to:



19. My comfort level with expressing vulnerability is:



20. Overall, in intimate relationships, I see myself as: