Don't Relax It: What Chronic Body Tension Is Protecting
Because the performance isn’t always the impressive kind. For plenty of people, the performance is smallness.
The Cascade and the Seat at the Table
Sometimes one sentence is enough. A colleague mentions a competitor's revenue, and within minutes you're doubting whether you can do what you set out to do. On the cascade that follows, and the seat you keep giving away.
The Cost of Being Fine
Being fine isn’t neutral. For a lot of high performers, it’s a full-time job.
What Your Inner Critic Is Actually Protecting
The critic isn’t cruelty. It’s protection that never learned another way.
The Body Keeps the Contract
By the time you’ve had the thought, your body has already responded.
Why Rest Feels Dangerous
For a lot of high performers, rest doesn’t feel restful. It feels exposed.
The Ache Underneath the Achievement
A flatness where the satisfaction was supposed to live.
The Sacredness of Burnout: Drawing Wisdom from Philoctetes
Burnout today feels like you're trudging through an endless fog, with every step heavier than the last. It's that feeling of being drained, even before the day starts. But hidden within this exhaustion is a call to pause, reflect, and realign. While it's tough to see peers zooming ahead, seemingly unhindered, it's essential to remember that our personal journeys are unique. Sometimes, the very weight of burnout can lead us to a deeper understanding of ourselves, our needs, and our passions. It's not just about bouncing back; it's about evolving with newfound wisdom. After all, the brightest lights often emerge from the darkest nights.
Impermanence at 50
As my 50th birthday nears, I've been reflecting deeply on the Buddhist concept of impermanence, a guiding force since my early 20s. This philosophy has evolved for me from a tool for navigating life's challenges to a lens that amplifies the beauty of fleeting moments, whether they're spent with my wife, Melissa, or watching our dog, Disco. Aging has shifted me from reactivity to reflection, teaching me to embrace both life's highs and lows, all while acknowledging the physical changes that come with time. Impermanence, to me, underscores that every present moment is precious and worth savoring.
We-Di-Tation: Unveiling the Power of Shared Mindfulness for Deeper Connections
We-di-tation is the practice of shared mindfulness, extending our focus beyond ourselves during meditation, creating deeper, more empathetic connections. Discover the transformative power of this novel concept, breaking the barriers of conventional meditation and fostering a sense of collective growth.