Sharing Appreciation
The client in my previous blog has begun asking her boyfriend to tell her that he loves her. When she introduced this idea of requesting that he verbally appreciate her, he responded: "I'm…
Life Coaching
Loving Yourself Is Bullshit: Stop Going It Alone
One of my clients feels badly that she wants her boyfriend to tell her he loves her. She thinks that she shouldn't need the acknowledgment. She says she should feel solid enough about…
Soul Mates...Do They Really Exist?
Recently a coaching client had been complaining about the various partners that showed up in her life. Mostly she felt a maternal instinct for them, and more often than not, they turned out…
Recreating Trust Part 2: The Letdown
Have you ever met anyone who fulfilled your expectations and lived up to your intentions all the time? While it would be wonderful if you could honestly say yes, the answer is likely no. So…
Recreating Trust Part 1: The Honeymoon
Recreating Trust Part 5: Take an Inventory
Before we move forward in any relationship where trust has broken down, we need to first clean up the mess that we and others in our lives have made. The unresolved upsets will weaken the…
Recreating Trust Part 3: Storing Our Resentments
During the honeymoon, everything is so wonderful because you are not dealing with a lot of disappointments. You can be open and intimate with a high degree of trust. So on the scale of…
Recreating Trust Part 4: File Emptying
Have you ever been in a situation where somebody else said or did something, and another person reacted in a way that was dramatically disproportionate to what you said or did? Of course!…
Recreating Trust Part 6: Expressing the File and Listening
If you are going to communicate everything in your file to another person, how would you manage your communication?
Transforming the Sacred Wound Part 9: Integration
Once the pain of the emotion has passed, once we have completely and compassionately descended down to the bottom of the rock, we experience a sense of relief. We begin to widen, deepen,…
Transforming the Sacred Wound Part 8: Cultivating Compassion
The real gift we have to offer to others is our compassion. Likewise, the real gift we have to offer ourselves is compassion. The place we often go to when we feel the pain of our wound is…
Transforming the Sacred Wound Part 7: Practicing Presence
However unnerving the experience, we need to bring a moment-to-moment awareness to the wound. It’s important that we not get lured too much into the past or future storylines until we have…