The Cost of Being Fine
I learned to be the steady one. Years later, asking for help meant letting people see when I wasn’t feeling so great.
Writing
The Body Keeps the Contract
I kept saying yes while my body was bracing. On noticing that response before deciding what to do.
The Ache Underneath the Achievement
A client expected an accomplishment to bring joy. Our conversation brought me back to what I had hoped success would settle.
I’m very good at looking like I have it together
Fifteen minutes into a podcast, I told the host I was nervous. The anxiety stayed, and we kept talking.
It’s still hard for me to ask
I was sitting with some hard news. Melissa was in the next room. Asking her to hold me was the difficult part.
The Sacredness of Burnout: Drawing Wisdom from Philoctetes
In the world of Greek tales, there's Philoctetes—destined to be a hero in the Trojan War with his powerful bow and arrows. But life threw him a curveball: a snakebite that wouldn't heal.…
Impermanence at 50
Hello friend! Thanks for reading. I wanted to take this opportunity to share some reflections I've been doing as my 50th birthday approaches. I'd like to share an insight that has…
How to Say No without Burning Bridges
Eva's facing a challenging situation. She and Doug, highly respected in their community for their pioneering initiatives, jointly created a noteworthy language learning program. However, as…
Navigating Disappointment
I invite you to consider that you and I have been on a journey together of interpersonal transformation, where you're exploring your interconnectedness with all of life and how that…
Embracing Discomfort: The Key to Overcoming Negative Emotions
It's no secret that dealing with negative emotions like anxiety, sadness, and anger is a challenge every individual faces. Yet, the more we resist these emotions, the more they persist.…
Facing Our Demons
When we experience danger or threats, it's normal to suppress or ignore our emotions to protect ourselves and react effectively. However, if we don't process these emotions properly, they…
The Many Masks of Personality
The word "personality" comes from the Latin word "persona," which means "mask." In ancient Rome, actors wore masks to portray different characters in plays. The word "persona" has come to…