I use the word incompletion for an unresolved experience that keeps affecting you after a conversation, or even a relationship, is over. You may still feel misunderstood, replay what…
Do you ever find yourself in a situation where something is bothering you, and you have the urge to say it but hesitate because you anticipate a negative reaction from the other person? We…
Are you constantly feeling burnt out from always having to support and help others? It may seem like your loved ones, friends, or team members are always leaning on you for time, energy and…
A few years ago I was at a dinner party, talking politics, when someone said something that landed as racist. I wanted to say so. I could feel the heat come up in my face and the words…
Just when we think we have completed a body of personal work like overcoming shame, self-loathing or chronic insecurity, it can sneak back up on us. The tendency is to think that we've…
Collectively we are all being forced to reassess what's important and what matters. Shelter-in-place is forcing many of us to look within, to find out what we're made of, what's driving us.…
Lettuce in your teeth is no big deal, but it stings to learn about it after the meeting, when everyone saw it, and nobody said a word. People stay quiet because pointing out someone's flaw…
Somewhere in you there may be a part that doesn't buy your own worth. It has the evidence ready, filed and tabbed. A chain of failures. Every criticism you ever took. Side-by-side…
One of my clients describes this experience she had in grammar school. Being the chubbiest and slowest of the other kids performing wind sprints in Mrs. Wahlberg's P.E. class, my client…
Perfect is a goal you can't reach and can't put down. Chasing it grinds you down, makes you afraid of risk, and leaves a steady hum of not-enough under everything you finish. Almost every…
Several years ago, I completed burned out in my work. I had started to feel a dimming of interest in a work project I’d been involved in. I'd been co-running a yoga program in San Francisco…
Mary was 48 and had spent her whole life driven to make it big in the corporate world. She arrived at my office and said, "I am totally burnt out and am just going through the motions of my…
