Navigating Disappointment
I invite you to consider that you and I have been on a journey together of interpersonal transformation, where you're exploring your interconnectedness with all of life and how that…
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Embracing Discomfort: The Key to Overcoming Negative Emotions
It's no secret that dealing with negative emotions like anxiety, sadness, and anger is a challenge every individual faces. Yet, the more we resist these emotions, the more they persist.…
Facing Our Demons
When we experience danger or threats, it's normal to suppress or ignore our emotions to protect ourselves and react effectively. However, if we don't process these emotions properly, they…
The Many Masks of Personality
The word "personality" comes from the Latin word "persona," which means "mask." In ancient Rome, actors wore masks to portray different characters in plays. The word "persona" has come to…
Incompletions in Relationships: When a Conversation Still Feels Unfinished
I use the word incompletion for an unresolved experience that keeps affecting you after a conversation, or even a relationship, is over. You may still feel misunderstood, replay what…
The Costs of Withholding Truth
Do you ever find yourself in a situation where something is bothering you, and you have the urge to say it but hesitate because you anticipate a negative reaction from the other person? We…
When We Feel Like We’re On Our Own
Are you constantly feeling burnt out from always having to support and help others? It may seem like your loved ones, friends, or team members are always leaning on you for time, energy and…
When Your Caveman Brain Takes Control
A few years ago I was at a dinner party, talking politics, when someone said something that landed as racist. I wanted to say so. I could feel the heat come up in my face and the words…
Peeling Away Layers of Our Onion
Just when we think we have completed a body of personal work like overcoming shame, self-loathing or chronic insecurity, it can sneak back up on us. The tendency is to think that we've…
Dismember to Re-member
Collectively we are all being forced to reassess what's important and what matters. Shelter-in-place is forcing many of us to look within, to find out what we're made of, what's driving us.…
Blind Spots
Lettuce in your teeth is no big deal, but it stings to learn about it after the meeting, when everyone saw it, and nobody said a word. People stay quiet because pointing out someone's flaw…
Meet Your Inner Critic
Somewhere in you there may be a part that doesn't buy your own worth. It has the evidence ready, filed and tabbed. A chain of failures. Every criticism you ever took. Side-by-side…